Comments on: Women Are Bonkers! http://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/ "Well-behaved women seldom make history." ~ Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:36:50 +0000 hourly 1 By: Alyssonhttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Alysson Tue, 12 May 2009 22:43:13 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-22 I couldn't agree more, Melanie...men are as much to blame for putting up with this behavior as women are for acting as they do.I equate it to women who allow themselves to be beaten by a man, and continue to return time and time and time and time again. Yes, everyone makes mistakes. Yes, everyone may deserve a second chance. It's the 10th, 18th and 32nd chances that perpetuate the behavior indefinitely and ultimately make a bad situation exponentially worse.If men reward nagging, whining, bitching women by giving in and giving them their way, it's no wonder women continue to nag, whine and bitch. If women reward jealous, controlling, abusive men by staying in a toxic relationship for years, it's no wonder that men continue to be jealous, control and abuse. People do what works for them. If their behavior didn't get the desired results, whether man or woman, they would modify their behavior accordingly.People, in general, don't know what they want...and, more frighteningly, they either don't believe they deserve to be treated well or don't believe they have a right to demand that others treat them well. The bottom line is that as individuals we teach people how to treat us. I couldn’t agree more, Melanie…men are as much to blame for putting up with this behavior as women are for acting as they do.

I equate it to women who allow themselves to be beaten by a man, and continue to return time and time and time and time again. Yes, everyone makes mistakes. Yes, everyone may deserve a second chance. It’s the 10th, 18th and 32nd chances that perpetuate the behavior indefinitely and ultimately make a bad situation exponentially worse.

If men reward nagging, whining, bitching women by giving in and giving them their way, it’s no wonder women continue to nag, whine and bitch. If women reward jealous, controlling, abusive men by staying in a toxic relationship for years, it’s no wonder that men continue to be jealous, control and abuse. People do what works for them. If their behavior didn’t get the desired results, whether man or woman, they would modify their behavior accordingly.

People, in general, don’t know what they want…and, more frighteningly, they either don’t believe they deserve to be treated well or don’t believe they have a right to demand that others treat them well. The bottom line is that as individuals we teach people how to treat us.

]]> By: Melaniehttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Melanie Tue, 12 May 2009 21:07:53 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-23 I've known women in each of those categories. Unfortunately, there's also a lot of overlap between them. Imagine a Venn Diagram, one that's really, really messed up... just like these women.And the psycho trait doesn't fade; especially when equally messed up men put up with and reinforce it. I’ve known women in each of those categories. Unfortunately, there’s also a lot of overlap between them. Imagine a Venn Diagram, one that’s really, really messed up… just like these women.

And the psycho trait doesn’t fade; especially when equally messed up men put up with and reinforce it.

]]> By: Alyssonhttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Alysson Tue, 03 Feb 2009 00:57:20 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-21 Glad you enjoyed the post and that you found it amusing. I wish I could reassure you that "the psycho bitch trait" fades, but I don't think it does! :) Glad you enjoyed the post and that you found it amusing. I wish I could reassure you that “the psycho bitch trait” fades, but I don’t think it does! :)

]]> By: 8traqhttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-20 8traq Tue, 03 Feb 2009 00:47:41 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-20 i havent yet reached my 20's but I thought the psycho bitch trait faded directly after high school but i see it continues into the thirties. o gee golly so much more to look forward to haha. I just thank god i was never like that. raised around too many men and sane women i guess!thanks for the laugh i havent yet reached my 20′s but I thought the psycho bitch trait faded directly after high school but i see it continues into the thirties. o gee golly so much more to look forward to haha. I just thank god i was never like that. raised around too many men and sane women i guess!

thanks for the laugh

]]> By: Alyssonhttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Alysson Mon, 02 Feb 2009 21:56:11 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-19 You hit the nail on the head, Dave. Perhaps because I have always refused the notion of being "the good little girl" in this patriarchal culture, I don't understand why so many women accept that for themselves.It's also important to note that men aren't without a certain amount of responsibility for this behavior. Not only do they accept it, they often encourage it by seeking out women who fall into one of the three categories I've highlighted above. You hit the nail on the head, Dave. Perhaps because I have always refused the notion of being “the good little girl” in this patriarchal culture, I don’t understand why so many women accept that for themselves.

It’s also important to note that men aren’t without a certain amount of responsibility for this behavior. Not only do they accept it, they often encourage it by seeking out women who fall into one of the three categories I’ve highlighted above.

]]> By: davehttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-18 dave Mon, 02 Feb 2009 21:19:20 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-18 While there is certainly plenty of truth in what you say, there is a larger issue of a continuing patriarchal cultural "rationale" for women to behave this way, as pointless and self destructive as it is.I recommend anything in the Amanda Marcotte oeuvre, who is always insightful on these topics. http://pandagon.net/index.php/site/comments/on_feeling_ambivalent_about_reactionary_dating_advice/ http://pandagon.net/index.php/site/comments/romantic_comedies_slipping_into_caveman_territory/ While there is certainly plenty of truth in what you say, there is a larger issue of a continuing patriarchal cultural “rationale” for women to behave this way, as pointless and self destructive as it is.

I recommend anything in the Amanda Marcotte oeuvre, who is always insightful on these topics.
http://pandagon.net/index.php/site/comments/on_feeling_ambivalent_about_reactionary_dating_advice/
http://pandagon.net/index.php/site/comments/romantic_comedies_slipping_into_caveman_territory/

]]> By: Alyssonhttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Alysson Mon, 02 Feb 2009 20:30:57 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-17 I'm glad it made you laugh...there's usually little that I find more humorous than the truth. :) I’m glad it made you laugh…there’s usually little that I find more humorous than the truth. :)

]]> By: David Leonhardthttp://www.alyssonfergison.com/women-are-bonkers/comment-page-1/#comment-16 David Leonhardt Mon, 02 Feb 2009 19:38:46 +0000 http://alyssonfergison.wordpress.com/?p=81#comment-16 I laughed and even agreed with much of this. And that's all I have to say because, as a man, I am really not thinking of anything. :-) I laughed and even agreed with much of this. And that’s all I have to say because, as a man, I am really not thinking of anything. :-)

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